I had a friend who was married with a young child, and one night, we decided to go out to dinner. Her husband wasn't big on fancy food, and we hadn't had a chance to chat in a while, so her husband stayed at home with the child while she and I had a nice dinner.
We were out for maybe two hours max, and afterward, we went back to their place. I went inside for a bit, and she went to check on the child, and I was a bit surprised that he went on and on about how it was a big deal that he'd agreed to babysit for the night so that she and I could go out, and wasn't he a great guy for doing that. She said that yes, it was nice of him to watch the baby so she could go out for a little while.
And then he turned to me and said that I should thank him for babysitting so that I could have dinner with his wife. I don't remember exactly what I did. I think I was mostly shocked. I don't think I thanked him. I think I might have just stared at him.
So, when did it become "babysitting" when it's YOUR OWN CHILD? And she was the one who took care of the child's needs every night - feeding, changing, attention, all of it. She had already fed and changed the child before we left for dinner. We were only gone for a couple of hours, and it wasn't like he was missing out on a dinner he would have enjoyed. He didn't like those sorts of restaurants anyway. He just had to take care of the child by himself for a couple of hours. And he was expecting to get some sort of medal for that? Or at least my undying gratitude? For actually deigning to look after his own child?