tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3707219117868150166.post4601076425996162243..comments2024-01-06T03:33:47.574-08:00Comments on Home by the Sea: Not a damn thing I can do.Cindyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14783147427209732831noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3707219117868150166.post-60237459397718655832008-12-20T12:18:00.000-08:002008-12-20T12:18:00.000-08:00What Sherry said.I was the person in my family res...What Sherry said.<BR/><BR/>I was the person in my family responsible for taking care of everyone, since age three! So I know what it's like (and I had serious undiagnosed conditions, so felt sick and tired all the time, but still had been heavily conditioned to take care of everyone). <BR/><BR/>I do not envy your friend. And I would be sad and angry and frustrated in your place. <BR/><BR/>But like Sherry said, there is not much you can do but be there for her. She is way too ill to deal with family conflict right now. <BR/><BR/>Really, someone should advocate for her to the family. If it were possible, the doctor should talk to them and tell them she needs rest. Is there a family member who could ask the doctor to talk to the rest of the family and tell them what she needs from them, for a change?<BR/><BR/>But even so, that may not work. It wouldn't have worked in my family. It really depends on the family and what their motivations are. Sad to say, some people just use people, even in families. Other times, taking responsibility in a family is a two way street. Duty may be helping your friend stay connected with her loved ones through this tough time. It is too hard to say without knowing more about her and her family.<BR/><BR/>Wish there was more I could say or do. :-(Ariellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784055340919707607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3707219117868150166.post-12008737006370272512008-12-17T19:56:00.000-08:002008-12-17T19:56:00.000-08:00I'm sorry that she's having so much on her plate. ...I'm sorry that she's having so much on her plate. Obviously her family has relied on her so long that they just can't seem to do things on their own. But maybe they think it will help her get her mind off of her illness, I don't know. All you can do is be there for her and be strong. She needs you for that the most.Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18203095197369711757noreply@blogger.com